The man started his story, saying that his wife and he spent four years trying to get pregnant before the wrong side of 35. They are currently 33 respectively now and are blessed with a wonderful infant son. The man’s wife has a younger half sister that she has been LC with for some time.
The man described his SIL as an entitled and toxic woman, and also her mother’s golden child. He wrote that they’ve refused to let her or her MIL in the house since they both blatantly tried to make off with his wife’s jewelry box a couple of years ago.
The box contained a lot of valuable jewelry inherited from his wife’s grandmother. Said jewelry is now in a safety deposit box as per the man’s suggestion.
The man and his wife were blessed by a baby after a long period of trying.
The man’s wife and him had nearly given up trying to conceive when it suddenly happened. And they were ecstatic. After the spouses found out they were having a boy, they started looking into names.
The man wrote, “I ended up suggesting the name of my Scottish grandfather, and my wife loved it. So that’s the name we settled on. But we made the mistake of posting about it on social media. Well no surprise to the stereotype in this mess, my SIL was pregnant too. And was months further along than my wife and also having a boy.”
What happened next, was the SIL’s shameless act that totally destroyed the man’s trust in something good in her.
He wrote, “She decided to claim my grandfather’s name for her own son. And not just the first name, but the middle name too. We called her pissed over what she was doing, and she smugly told us there’s nothing we can do about it. Which she was sorta right. There was nothing we could do about it legally, as it’s still not a crime to steal planned baby names.”
The family drama continued with even bigger tension.
The spouses realized that drama was exactly what the man’s SIL wanted. And she thought that by taking the name for herself, they’d not be able to use it. The man laughed and told her that while what she did was dirty and underhanded, they would keep their chosen name. And she could just deal with it whether she decides to go through with copying them or not.
The man revealed that the drama proceeded in a very emotional way. He says, “Well, my SIL’s baby-daddy called me and said I was an unreasonable person for still wanting to use the name after SIL claimed it. I said she claimed nothing. And since we couldn’t own the name, then neither could they. Before he ended the call, he threatened me by saying I’d be sorry if we didn’t change the name. Then he hung up before I could respond.”
Months later, SIL had a healthy baby boy and named him the man’s grandfather’s name. They did not show up for the birth. As the man explained, because they simply didn’t care to be there. SIL called them wanting congratulations. But they told her they simply didn’t care. And that if she was still insisting they change their baby’s name, then she’d be in for some big disappointment because they were not.
The man wrote, “SIL demanded I put my wife on the phone. But it was already on speaker, and my wife spoke up and said she agrees with me entirely. We weren’t changing the name. SIL hung up on us, but soon started sending emails with text walls of names. Even suggesting similar ones. I responded back that the name was from my grandfather, and that’s why we were not changing it. She shut up, and we didn’t hear from her again till after our own son was born.”
SIL and her husband were trying to push harder, but got nothing.