A mother-daughter
relationship can sometimes be a plot for a real drama movie.
Such thing happened to a Reddit user, who seemed to have
demonstrated the warmest attitude to her daughter, who has kids and lives
in her house. But the result of such a relationship turned into
a huge family catastrophe, which may hurt many people, including the
innocent kids. The desperate woman is now trying to resolve
an uneasy dilemma.
The mother-daughter relationship seemed to be the warmest at first sight.
A mother has turned
to Reddit platform
to ask for a piece of advice regarding her very complicated
situation with her own daughter. The woman, 45 who goes by the name
of Miserable-Day-8244, wrote that she has a daughter, 27, and six
grandchildren. Her daughter and grandkids live with her, and the woman doesn’t
even expect her daughter to pay any rent.
The woman added that all
of her daughter’s kids have three different fathers, one of the dads
is her current fiancé, who lives in the house together with her
daughter and kids as well.
The parents sheltered their daughter together with her big family.
The woman continues
her post, saying that her
daughter works part-time, and her husband-to-be works as a chef
on a full time basis. The family have lived with the woman
in her house for the past year and a half, all because they were
evicted from their latest home. The kids and the daughter with her future
husband use 2 upstairs bedrooms in the house, and there’s still not
so much space for their 6 kids.
The couple are often
asking the woman for help with phone bills, and the OP with her husband
don’t ask them to pay for anything, because they want the young family
to be able to save money to get a home. But the woman
confessed that saving for their own home was probably not something they were
doing.
The daughter left her mom in shock right on the Christmas Eve.
The woman goes
on with her story, saying that she
has put up with loud voices throughout all hours, and waking
up at different hours to cater to children. She explained
that she really loves her grandchildren. She wrote that she never complained
to her daughter because she thinks family is very important. She and
her husband didn’t expect her daughter with her family to be living
in their house this long. The woman wrote that they actually had some
plans for remodeling their house, but they had put them away because
of their daughter’s needs.
On Christmas Eve,
the daughter gathered all family members all around and announced they were
pregnant with baby #7. The woman revealed that everyone was all excited, but
she just felt dread. She explained that this would mean another child
in their house with not much room.
Her husband felt the
same about the whole situation. They discussed later and decided they were
going to have to ask her daughter to move out with all her big
family.
The woman feels bad
about her decision, but she feels this was the only one that would
be right.
The woman then had
to bring it up to her
daughter and her boyfriend and she told them, they have 2 months
to find a place because she and her husband couldn’t have another
child there. Her daughter started crying, saying she couldn’t believe her own
mom would throw her to the streets for having a baby. She claimed
that this was completely unfair and not enough time. But the mother didn’t
change her mind, she told her she was sorry. The woman confessed that this
decision was painful for her as well, but the living conditions were just
impossible.
Her daughter demanded
she gave her more time, or she’d go to the courts and the woman
told her news flash, the courts only give you 30 days. She then said her
grandchildren were going to be homeless because their grandma was
selfish. The daughter even made a Facebook post asking for rooms to rent
because “she’s pregnant and has nowhere to go, and her family don’t care
about her.”
People’s advice was
controversial, yet many agreed with the woman.
Responding to the woman’s post, many people felt for her. One person wrote, “She is 27, and it’s time for her to stand on her own two feet. I could not imagine having an extra nine people in my house, including an infant! They’ve been taking advantage for far too long, and should NEVER have added another pregnancy to the mix until they got their own place. Even then, it doesn’t sound like they can afford all these kids they keep having. This is not on you, they’ve made these life decisions & it’s time they figure it out.”
Another person added, “The longer she
stays, the more she is taking advantage of you and your husband. You
know that. I don’t think you can just kick them out
to be homeless (I’m thinking solely of your grandchildren here)
but you can help them find subsidized or low income housing. Then they are
on their own. The bank of mom & dad is closed. What
they are doing to you is grossly unfair. Good luck.”